Amara Ogwuma
2 min readNov 18, 2019

Nothing ever prepares you for life like your first challenge, prior to this, you may have had it easy, so much so that you had gotten used to the glitz and glamour. You simply couldn’t relate with difficult situations and you attributed people’s experiences to sheer laziness and "it was not that serious".

Then it happened, the little golden bubble you created for yourself deflated, your world came crumbling and all you could do was stare: helpless, clueless, nothing was the same.

Poor you. There's no help in the world, you thought. Everyone is wicked and selfish; nobody actually loves you. You stood in your balcony and stared into nothingness, just silhouettes of humans strutting, like you didn't matter... It was too noisy, but you experienced this deafening silence where no matter how loud you shouted, nobody heard you. You had become so small, so invisible, nobody pays attention to something that evaporates in the air, you were gone with the mind.

You were disappointed, your Landlord threw you out of the apartment, you were his most loyal tenant, so consistent with payment, that you even deposited in advance.

Walking out of the apartment, you took a stroll down the other side of the lagoon, you humiliated yourself, to dine with nobodies and get drunk on cheap wine.

Then you found a new home, the dregs became your neighbors, you realized it isn't the worst thing ever, literally. You stopped struggling and you found the ladder, to climb to your storey, to walk your path: you found growth.

Now you have learned to trust the process, you are aware of the way life works - nobody really understands. One minute, you're celebrating a milestone, the next minute you don't know who you are, so you simply shrug and exhale with these words in your mouth "life happens to everybody"

Most importantly, you clog your memories with the first time you experienced the harshness of your reality, it is never to be forgotten. The highest form of empathy came from the strangest place, so you keep it at the back of your mind that no matter how hard it gets, there’s always help and it could come from the unknown.

There's still kindness in the world, I hope you find it.

Amara Ogwuma

Writer. Data analyst. Comms/PR professional. YouTuber. Social worker. Black magic.